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Yes Gender flipping is a good way to keep things in perspective. There is an article a few posts up at # 466. that goes into Gender flipping in more detail.

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For some reason the previous link 404'd Ive fixed it now though.
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101 Everyday Ways for Men to Be Allies to Women.

Iíve considered myself a feminist and male ally to women for quite some time. When I took my first Womenís Studies class two years ago with Professor Denise Witzig, little did I know that it would take me down an unsuspecting, beautiful, and transformative path towards feminism. Below, Iíve complied a list of 101 everyday ways for men to be allies to women. I must acknowledge that this post was written with cisgender, heterosexual men as a possible, target audience. However, I feel that many of these points are applicable on a broader scale. If you have suggestions or additions to this list, Iíve included my email at the end of this post. Iím totally open to dialogue. While some of these points were suggested to me by friends, most of them come from my personal experience with allyship and feminist activism.

1. Recognize your privileges, especially your male privilege.
  • Iím very intentional in making this point first. Understanding your male privilege is the core principle of allyship towards women and people who identify outside the gender spectrum. Male privilege is a set of privileges that all men (or anybody that identifies as male) benefit from under patriarchy. All of these privileges are at the expense of women and other subordinate groups. Hereís a good list of examples of male privileges! (The Male Privilege Checklist)
2. Make a daily effort to acknowledge and challenge your male privilege.
  • In order to be a successful ally, you must make a daily effort to understand privilege. As a male, it is your social responsibility to be conscious of your privileges. Use this consciousness to explore different situations. For example, how would a situation been different if it were a woman in your position? Would a woman have been treated differently than you?
3. Recognize that your male privilege (among other privileges) may in fact blind you to othersí experiences.
  • Allies are not perfect by any means. We will make mistakes. What we choose to do after making a mistake is what will determine our effectiveness as allies. Therefore, it is very important to come to terms with the fact that we do not know everything! Because of our privilege, we are going to be blinded to situations that only a woman would be able to speak to. So please, recognize this blindspot and donít take it personally when someone corrects you for overlooking something.
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Links from the above article.
The Male Privilege Checklist

As McIntosh points out, men also tend to be unaware of their own privileges as men. In the spirit of McIntoshís essay, I thought Iíd compile a list similar to McIntoshís, focusing on the invisible privileges benefiting men.
Due to my own limitations, this list is unavoidably U.S. centric. I hope that writers from other cultures will create new lists, or modify this one, to reflect their own experiences.
Since I first compiled it, the list has been posted many times on internet discussion groups. Very helpfully, many people have suggested additions to the checklist. More commonly, of course, critics (usually, but not exclusively, male) have pointed out men have disadvantages too Ė being drafted into the army, being expected to suppress emotions, and so on. These are indeed bad things Ė but I never claimed that life for men is all ice cream sundaes.




The Feminist Guide To Non-Creepy Flirting.

No one wants to come across as ďcreepyĒ, especially not to the attractive person theyíve just approached. In the case of men who approach women, the word creepy doesnít even need to be said.
A cold shoulder, quick step, or plain old rejection from a woman or her group of friends can signal to some men that theyíve just been dismissed as a ďcreepĒ.
So what exactly is a creep? A creep isnít always the spray tanned, aggressively narcissistic jerk who treats women like crap as a way of hitting on them. A creepy person could be anyone of any gender or sexual orientation, well-meaning or otherwise, who makes someone else feel unsafe, uncomfortable, or wary.
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How to Compliment Women Without Objectifying Them
Because the thing is: Straight men and women are going to find people of the opposite gender attractive and want to let them know that. And thatís fine. In fact, a lot of us love getting compliments.
But itís the intent behind the compliment that can be problematic.
And Iím not saying that male sexuality and male sexual desires are wrong, even though people tend to think that feminists believe that.
Feminists arenít saying that at all. Iím not saying that at all.
Weíre saying that sexual entitlement is wrong.
Itís when the person feels entitled to that sexual desire being reciprocated, or has other motives, that it infringes on the other personís boundaries and turns creepy Ė or at least uncomfortable.
Men, we think itís great if you find a woman attractive and want to let her know that, but thereís a right way and a wrong way to do it.
That being said, here are some tips on doing it the right way.
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How Male Sexual Entitlement Hurts Everyone

Why Does Sexual Entitlement Happen?

Because we think itís normal. Itís normal to overlook the female orgasm. Itís normal to judge womenís bodies on appearance. Itís normal for women to ďletĒ guys sleep with them.
Itís embedded in the way promiscuous men are idolized in Bond movies while promiscuous women get called sluts. Every action in our society that overvalues the sexual gratification of men reinforces male sexual entitlement.
All of these normal behaviors seem harmless when looked at individually, but they are symptoms of a larger cultural attitude that overvalues male sexuality and expects female sexuality to exist for male pleasure.
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Feminists Should Be Loud Until There's Nothing To Yell About

A male friend of mine recently confided that he couldn't think of the word 'feminist' without immediately thinking 'lesbian', 'unfeminine', 'angry.'
The fact that I, a staunch feminist, was sitting across from him, engaging in a perfectly civilized lunch conversation, somehow caging my violent tendencies and my rampant lesbianism, managed to escape him.
A girlfriend of mine recently sent me a screenshot of someone's online dating profile she'd come across. He'd written: "Racists and feminists need not apply." I stared at it, dumbfounded that someone had equated something so intolerant and ignorant as racism with a movement that aims to do nothing more than define, establish, and defend equal political, economic, and social rights for women.
Because, really... that's all feminism is about. Equal rights for both men and women...
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This is an interesting and thought-provoking article which I saw thanks to Clementine Ford linking it on her FB page:

http://overland.org.au/2013/07/on-ch...bout-sex-work/

The issue of recognising agency vs calling out objectification is one I struggle with too.
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Look At This Picture. Can You Spot The Woman? Tara Moss.

Below, I present two fairly random examples of The Age newspaper online, snapped as screenshots. The first was taken by me on July 17 and the second on July 25. At a glance, I count over 43 men, one baby boy, two illustrated boys (both ads for the film ParaNorman) and one woman, partially visible behind a male. Oh, and a cockatoo of unknown gender:

I have no interest in targeting The Age, which I enjoy reading (hence the reason I found these front pages in the first place), and it is significant that these two examples were found on the only days I have visited their site recently, because I have been on holiday.
It is entirely possible that on the other days there were 43 women visible on their front page, and only one partially visible man, standing behind a woman. My snapshots by no means constitute a rigorous analysis of gender in Australian media.
However, Chrys Stevenson’s recent gender breakdown of Australian newspapers does. She found the following:



Stevenson’s findings accord with a number of international studies of mainstream media including a 2012 report by UK’s Women in Media, which concluded the following:
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