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dolkowski
19th March 2010, 04:46 PM
I was raised in a very catholic family (9 kids – I’m the oldest). I went to a catholic school in years 1 to 6 and was an altar boy for most of that time. I was indoctrinated so thoroughly that I wanted to become a priest from a very early age.

I went to a seminary for my first two years of high school. The school was in a different state (this was in the USA) from where I lived and was away from home except during the summer holidays and Christmas (remember that the States has their summer from Jul to Sep).

Well, a funny thing happened when I was on the bus to go back to the seminary following the second Christmas holiday – I just panicked! I just did not want to go back. There was no prior warning, no feelings of doubt before this, I was perfectly happy at the seminary. Yet in one instant, something in me snapped and I no longer wanted to become a priest.

I was talked into finishing the school year (which ends in June) and then see how I felt. I knew I wouldn’t change my mind, and I didn’t.

Why did this happen? I have always been one that thinks about things and this creeps into my subconcious. I get many ideas just after I wake up or wake up in the middle of the night with an idea of how to solve some issue in my life. Having a very logical brain for the other aspects of my life, perhaps I couldn’t reconcile religion with logic. Who knows? But I was still a practicing catholic for many years after this episode.

I remained a devout catholic through uni and as I began my long career in the US Air Force. I was very fascinated with technology, but because of my poor eyesight, I could not enter pilot training. So my second choice was to become a missile launch officer – one of those guys that would willingly end the world if the Soviet Union pisses us off enough. If you remember the movie ‘War Games’, you will get a glimpse of this. The actual control room was very realistic but the scenario and the actions of the officers (drawing guns on each other) was not.

Anyway, the missile crew is a two man crew that goes below ground (about 20 meters) in a capsule shaped room to launch the missiles if and when ordered to. About 75% of the time is pure boredom (in fact, I got a Masters in Business Adminstration while in this career doing all my work while below ground). The other officer I was crewed with was an atheist. We spent hours arguing our respective philosophies. Doubts about my faith were starting to creep in at this point since I frequently tried to analyse why I left the seminary as I did. I argued with my fellow officer but also deliberately as a test to myself to see if I could convince myself.

I failed.

I was in the missile career field for 5 years. At the end of this period, I applied for and was accepted to attend an Air Force University to study Astronautical Engineering (rocket science). From this point on, my career was in military space technology development. My constant analysis of the discussions below ground slowly, but surely, convinced me that my faith was not rational. At about the age of 30, I was able to confidently declare myself an atheist. Of course, with the American military being a very conservative organisation, I did not feel compelled to advertise this.

But now I am in Australia (that is another story but it’s not related to atheism). Since becoming an atheist, I have been irritated with the nonsecular nature of our government and the lack of social acceptance of atheists. I started reading atheist books and after I read the God Delusion, decided to become more vocal about my lack of god(s). But real life creeps in with work, family, etc and I found little time to get active.

My wife and I attended the Global Atheist Convention and have jointly decide to get more active – hence my joining of this forum and other things.

I look forward to discussing this story and other free thinking topics in the years to come.

wolty
19th March 2010, 04:56 PM
Thanks dol, a very interesting story. I hope all goes great with you and your wife here in Australia. Thanks for sharing. :)

Logic
19th March 2010, 05:29 PM
Excellent story. Hope you enjoy your time here.

Loki
19th March 2010, 06:17 PM
Great story, thank you

angelo
19th March 2010, 08:40 PM
Issac Asimov was right.
Properly read, the bible is the most potent force for atheism ever conceived.

Praxis
21st March 2010, 11:11 AM
Thanks dol - a very interesting story indeed.

I remain convinced that you can't really "de-vert" someone to the atheist viewpoint and that it is simply something that people have to come to on their own. Reason and logic cannot and will not be denied and many now-atheists recognise the effort and energy it took to keep up the constant and continual lying to themselves and the cognitive dissonance they deliberately had about all the religious nonsense they were meant to believe. I think if you're true to yourself and actually listen to what you really know to be true, then atheism is the place you end up.

Can't remember which GAC speaker said it, but I really liked it:

Atheism - the logical conclusion to a spiritual journey.

I'm glad you listened to yourself! Enjoy the forums :)

dolkowski
22nd March 2010, 03:25 AM
Thanks Praxis. Very nice reply. Yesterday, I had a long conversation with two Jehovah Witnesses who made the mistake of ringing my doorbell. It was very polite and I don't think I affected one of them but I think I planted a seed with the other. I agree that the primary force to devert (I like the term 'provert') has to come from the individual, but as it was with me, someone can provide the spark to start that journey.

I like that quote as well. I'll remember that the next time my doorbell rings.

riddlemethis
22nd March 2010, 05:02 AM
It was Ian Robinson who Praxis mentions from the conference. Dol get yourself a copy of the GAC DVD when it comes out - worth it for Ians pres alone.

Praxis
22nd March 2010, 05:49 AM
Thanks riddles! So it was. The quote has really stuck with me :)

Seamus
22nd March 2010, 07:09 AM
G'day Dolkowski and welcome from Adelaide, city of churches and bizarre murder capital of our great nation.

I too am a recovering Catholic,and have been for over 40 years.

I'm very familiar with parts of you story,especially about pressures to enter the seminary. At 14 I wanted to be a Jesuit.(cool uniform) My mother said "that's wonderful Dear. But first you have to finish high school and work for a year". Coincidentally,it was about that time I realised what 'vow of chastity means'.


I hope you hang around ans have some fun.

angelo
22nd March 2010, 02:21 PM
G'day Dolkowski and welcome from Adelaide, city of churches and bizarre murder capital of our great nation.

I too am a recovering Catholic,and have been for over 40 years.

I'm very familiar with parts of you story,especially about pressures to enter the seminary. At 14 I wanted to be a Jesuit.(cool uniform) My mother said "that's wonderful Dear. But first you have to finish high school and work for a year". Coincidentally,it was about that time I realised what 'vow of chastity means'.


I hope you hang around ans have some fun.
So, with you it was the seminary or sex, and you chose wisely. :p