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Unsacred Cow
22nd July 2009, 12:58 PM
As I have already mentioned in my welcome thread, I was raised in the largest AOG church here in Adelaide making me a 3rd generation fundamentalist.
My memories of the AOG were ones of fear mainly, terrifying fear. The sermons were delivered with what appeared to be such anger and intimidation that it was rather like a weekly scorning and usually twice on Sunday, morning and evening. I was there in my teens during the 1980’s, during the churches pre-occupation with “demonic” music and back-masking (I have seen this mentioned in one of the forums). The supposed back-masked music was played to the congregation (kids and all) and I remember feeling deeply frightened by the idea that I could unknowingly be open to invisible forces that were out to get me. It’s one thing to be terrified of things you can see but invisible nasties, well that just terrorized me. I also remember Revelation being a rather big focus and the supposed doom and gloom this would bring to the world. Stories of horned beasts and the like, another fearsome experience for me as a young adolescent. Like my life hadn’t already been rather hellish anyway and here I was being told it was going to be a whole lot worse than that! I did manage to make friends amongst the youth group there. I was known as the goody-two-shoes of the group (you know you're too compliant when even your church friends find you’re too well behaved) but it was probably good to make those associations as it helped me to rebel a little and it was certainly required—just goes to show youth groups can be good for something! I had an experience on a church camp that will stay with me until the end. During one of the nightly services held at the camp some people gathered down the front for prayer and next you know there are screams of agony. These people were supposedly being exorcised of demons. I didn’t sleep a wink that night! I remember being terrified about whether or not I also was possessed by demons for a little while after. I can’t begin to express the immense amount of fear that the talk of invisible goblins caused for me.
I left the AOG when my mum decided to relocate to another state during my teens and gave up church altogether in my late teens about the time I left home. I left home under duress during my matriculation exams...as a consequence I was too busy surviving to embark on any uni studies. Even though I stopped going to church (and this was because I couldn't stand the hypocrisy that was so evident) I still held a belief in a God or higher being, dabbling in a little new-age mysticism along the way, with a rebirthing experience thrown in for good measure (probably just to piss off some of my fundamentalist rellies who were convinced I would leave myself open to demon possession by doing so). However, I’ve long had a passion for seeking truth and it is this that was more than likely the ingredient required to eventually sift through the indoctrination enough to enable me to have the courage to leave fairytales in the past. I’m also a realist, ironically despite my upbringing in fundamentalist Christianity, my life experiences required I be so to a certain extent—exposure to domestic violence, broken marriages, sexual abuse and the like, were for me, events that kept one well grounded in the realms of worldly reality.
I married someone with a similar background to my own—our religious upbringing had been similar and we were both from “broken” homes. He was/is an atheist. Good choice as it turned out for me. Through the years our difference in beliefs was cause for much debate/argument. It was the one thing we really came to heads on. But we were friends first and foremost and he stuck it through with me. I only realize now how frustrating it must have been for him at times.
Enter the 2000's and the events that occurred following 9/11 and already suffering post-natal depression, old indoctrinated demons came back to haunt me and I was convinced that these events were the beginnings of what I learned about the apocalypse from the Revelation sermons I’d heard in my younger days. I suffered a major mental meltdown with all this (amazing what copious amounts of fear can do to your psyche) and went running back to church...repent, repent. I decided to try The Salvation Army with the idea that they would atleast offer a practical Christianity with their well known welfare efforts and a little tamer with their sermon deliveries. I have since read an author (People In Glass Houses) suggest that The Salvation Army is known as detox for Pentecostals. I could say that perhaps this is true and resulted in my eventual complete detox from Christianity and religion altogether. Incidentally the book, People In Glass Houses, an auto-biographical account of one womans journey in and out of Hillsong was like reading my own story with the exception of some finer personal details. I recommend it as a read of a coming out story of sorts with some interesting details into Hillsongs financial ploys.
I will add that I attribute a major amount of the dysfunction that occurred in my family to religious legalistic ideals, a massive lack of logical thought and child indoctrination of the worst kind. I have often pondered the idea of seeking legal action against the AOG for life lost but I’m sure it would be in vain with current legislative protection of such institutions citing religious freedom. It certainly didn’t bring me freedom. It is for the indoctrination of children and the abuse I know is suffered because of it that I aim to do my bit to bring it out into the light.
For my own children, I endeavour to give them the gift of free thought to the best of my ability.

Unsacred Cow
22nd July 2009, 04:05 PM
Ms Cow: You have suffered more of the AOG than I have. I am going to get the guts to write about getting exorcised, dammit: I will do it tonight.

I agree, there's nothing like good ol' charismatic church hysteria to wreck a person's mind.

Tanya Levin is now an atheist herself, having completed detox :): I reviewed People In Glass Houses here (http://www.atheistfoundation.org.au/forums/showthread.php?t=1118).

I feel bad for the young relatives I have left behind in the AOG: many of them don't know any other way of life.

Mr Black: May I ask what it is that has held you back from sharing your exorcism story? I really hope you do get up the guts to write about it. I'm kind of hoping you've had your flu meds too....your write up under the "family values" forum had me in stitches. Although, I'm well sure that it is a painful memory and nothing to be laughed at. I do always however, as it seems you do, try to find the humourous side to a painful situation.

Thanks for the update on Tanya (couldn't remember her full name and my book is out on loan currently), glad to hear she made it out. Do you happen to have any contact with her?

As for your young relatives, in time they may come to know you as the smart, logical thinking relative and will be someone to turn to when perhaps they decide they can't swallow the BS any longer. I have relatives well tied up with the AOG still too and there are now a 4th generation of fundies being raised which goes even further again....the bastards now have schools and some of my fourth generation young rellies are being subject to it all week long as well as on Sundays!

Unsacred Cow
22nd July 2009, 08:20 PM
@ Mr Black
Well you've got me hooked. I eagerly await Pt 2.

I have struggled mentioning the whole mental breakdown thing in the past. I cringe when I mention it. I haven't mentioned it in detail here but I totally lost hold on reality at that time in my life and it's difficult to admit to when reality is something you value highly. It's the major difficulty I have when I interact in the world, there are a lot of people out there, in and outside of churches, that don't deal in reality....it's a real bug bearer of mine. Finding myself capable of being in the clutches of complete fairyland is a little disconcerting.

Can you send some kind of alarm the moment the next part is published.